Category: Parenting

#THROWBACK 2019 CHINESE NEW YEAR 4th Feb 2019

Yes, our yearly affair. People will stay in their house or rush back to hometown – Malaysia and have a very decent meal- most of the time steamboat, yusheng and after that watch the count down.

For us… we are not going back to my husband’s hometown. But we are still going to jam at the custom for 5 hours to go to my parents’ holiday home in JB.

I like the ambience and atmosphere to celebrate in Malaysia.

Reason:

  1. Bigger space for the kids to play
  2. House everyone. Each couple have their own room.
  3. Fireworks

For me, family is important.

By right, Chinese tradition (at least I know it is our Taiwanese tradition ) daughter married is not allow to go back to their maternal side for Chinese new year. They are only allow to come back on the second day of Chinese New year.

So I totally love the idea when my mother suggest we go in for CNY. Because I do know I do not have much time left to spent with them. So every moment is important.

I will help her cook and prepare for the feast. She will whip out 10 dishes.

I am always so proud of what we had made. I will made sure I will post online to showcase my mummy creation.

This year Chinese zodiac is Pig. So my dad and sister, created this yusheng.

After the meal, we will wait till 11.59pm. Our neighbour will have a great firework for us.

Meanwhile, will let the kids play these. POP. And Sky lanterns. We write our wishes on these lanterns and light up the candle wax in the and it will raise up like a hot air balloon.

I really hope these are the tradition we keep in these family. I know it is tough for the driver, Mr L, my brother in law, my Dad.

But how long can we keep these tradition.

Kids will grow up. And my parents will grow old soon and these will be gone even before we know it.

Mr L had been complaining the long Jam at the custom and the idea of my stupid tradition. And keep asking to drop these. I know the frustration and angry the driver get. I am a driver too. Even if I explained to him he still this is silly.

I do hope he will understand the family memories I want to create and keep.

Happy Chinese New Year to all.

When should kids get a phone?

Queenie is asking Tooth fairy to bring her a phone. I had to tell her it is too heavy for the tooth fairy, and they will not know what type they should get for you. She is only 7 years old.

Is age really the issue?

Photo by mohamed Abdelgaffar on Pexels.com

I feel that is not so much on what age shall we give them. The key word is Maturity, are they mature enough to handle this gadget. And the world she gonna be expose to.

Like she will be influence with all the inappropriate content, addicted to games, become overly depending on social media, or even get bullied in the cyber world. Not to mention the the increase cases of scam calls. These are kid we are talking about, they are not mentally prepared for these cases.

On the other hand, I also want her to be technological savvy.

But deep down I know she is not ready to own a phone:

  • She still do not understand the concern of $$, what if she lost the phone. she will not feel the pinch
  • No able to follow strictly on schedule, let alone follow my limited screen time rule
  • she does not portray to me she have a sense of responsibility of her actions and chores, tasks

So Mr L and I decided, she will not have the phone. Until, she show us she is ready.

Meanwhile, she will have guided screen time with us on laptop or ipad or. Us as parents, we must limited our phone time as well, so the kids know phone is not the only thing in the world.